business development, fundraising industry

Stop Being Interchangeable

Too many businesses, consultants, professionals, and organizations exist just to exist. They’re the same as everyone else. “We really listen to our customers.” “We take a data-driven approach to your marketing.” “We are driven and willing to do what it takes to get the job done.”

Blah, blah, blah.

Do you think anyone doesn’t listen to their customers? Do you think marketing firms don’t have data? Do you think that companies just exist to do a half-assed job and leave you unsatisfied?

Those aren’t differentiators.

Those aren’t anything special. If you’re writing something like that, I have to tell you, you’re not doing what you think you are with that kind of posturing.

Ultimately, you’re no different than anyone else. I can see it when I read your blog posts, or your website. Most importantly, I see it in your actions.

I know, because you all say the same things over and over and over. Just like everyone else in your sector.

You’re nothing special for that. Instead, you’re just like the rest. Interchangeable.

And that’s a problem.

Because when you’re interchangeable, you’re competing on price. When the results are the same no matter where you go, you go where those results are cheapest.

Don’t do that.

Don’t let your customers do that. Don’t let your donors do that (don’t let them “shop” your nonprofit for a better “fit” for their donation dollars next year).

Set your value, and let others come to you for the value you bring.

Be different.

Be unexchangeable.

You’re interchangeable if there’s nothing special about you.

If you are (or I am) “just another copywriter”.

Or “just another life coach”.

Or “just another animal shelter”.

Or if you’re doing work that others have already defined, have already scoped out, and all you are doing is filling in gaps they have identified.

That may be okay.

But it’s not really interesting.

More important, it’s not really lucrative.

Most important, it’s not really make a difference.

It’s the generic work, the things “anyone” can do.

Those are the 85% – the 90% – the 95%.

In order to move the needle – in order to really change something – you’ve got to stand out.

You’ve got to be different.

You need to be in the top 5%, to be something that exists nowhere else, to bring ideas that exist nowhere else.

And to do that, you probably need to create some of your own opinion material.

Rather than collating everyone else’s work, just summarizing, you probably need to stake out a position that’s different from everyone else.

You need, in the terms of the Army, to “take that hill”, then defend it with everything you have.

Be unique. Demonstrate that uniqueness. Celebrate it. Promote it.

If you’re not unique, find a way to be unique.

Sales calls this the “unique selling proposition”. It exists for a reason.

When I’m writing about nonprofits, I don’t have a pedigree of a degree and decades of working in the sector.

All I have is my observations, and my opinion.

But they’re mine.

I’m not simply regurgitating results from the Giving USA report (though I did review it). I’m not just collating a bunch of statistics from online researchers and presenting them as if they represent my own original thought process.

I’m actually creating a new position – a new set of opinions – on how nonprofits should work.

I believe they should stop measuring “Retention” and instead should measure “Faithfulness”. [Read that here.]

I believe they should do more in the way of forecasting out four, five, or even 10 years, to see what their expected finances will be. That way, they can determine how much they should spend in order to change that future with greater retention rates. [Read that here.]

And I believe they should stop calling themselves “nonprofit”, as if they are identified by their tax status. [That’s a much longer post, and for another time. I’m not ready to back up that point just yet.]

The message is, though, that each of these positions is unique. I take it, I can defend it, I am using these to stake out my own place in this industry.

My blog posts aren’t just collations of “7 tips that everyone else already knows, but I feel like I’ve got to create some kind of content, so, here, take this that nobody really is going to read or, if they do, won’t learn anything new anyway, but, heck, at least it plays the SEO game well.”

I’m actually providing thought leadership.

Which, if you want to be taken seriously, you’re going to have to do as well.

No more of this circle-jerk of linking to “influencers” in the hopes of some kind of a shout-out.

No more repeating what’s been conventional wisdom for decades, just because you need something to fill a content hole this week and you lack for ideas that might change how you do business or work with a partner. ‘Tis better to skip throwing more crap on the pile than to simply regurgitate for the sake of Google.

Do your own research.

Take a risk. Stick your own neck out.

Make your own noise.

Be different.

And make the world better for it.


This is part of a sporadic series of posts on useless ideas to stop, and what to replace those with. [Stop Saying Thank You] and [Nonprofits Don’t Have a Donor Retention Problem, They Have a Donor “Retention” Problem] are the first two, with more to follow.

business development, craft

Why “…Those Who Can’t, Teach” Is A Terrible Saying, and How To Fix It

Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard this old adage, generally used disparagingly…

Those who can, do. Those who can’t, teach.

98% chance your hand, like mine, is in the air right now. Everybody’s heard this phrase. Most people have said it. Keep those hands up if that phrase has come out of your mouth. While not as high as before, I’m pegging the over-under on this one at about 75%, self included as well.

Generally, this saying is issued to somehow insult teachers, as if they “couldn’t handle the real world” of mathematics, or writing history books, or of producing documentaries. You’re not good enough, is the implied meaning. You’re not dedicated enough. You can’t handle the pressure. You’d be out making a lot more money in the “real world” if you could, but you can’t, so that’s why you’re settling for teaching.

And while some of those may be true, on an individual basis, it’s a rather gross stereotype, one I now see as encompassing a terrible mindset about those who teach.

Problems Inherent

One major problem is that it’s rather limiting to a professional to say that he or she is required to perform within the world outside academia, as if that is the first choice and the standard for performance within this world. We hear so often, “Be what you want to be,” but then receive contradictory messages denigrating those who may just really want to remain immersed in the subject itself, rather than applying the principles in an increasingly competitive, cutthroat economy. If a teacher, who is happy teaching, sees all of her peers miserable because they’ve succumbed to the rat race, who has made the wiser choice? Who has followed her dream more faithfully? Who should we really admire and look up to?

Second, what does this phrase tell students about those who are instructing them? Oh, these people can’t really do economics, so they’re here in your high school class to teach you about it. Yeah, we can’t afford real professionals, so you get the amateur hour. Is that instilling confidence within our youths, or, really, anyone on the outside, to think of our educators as incapable of performing at the level required of them? Or causing them to doubt their education, and, consequently, their own opportunities for the future?

So Nobody’s Teaching Anymore?

Far from it. Many still choose to teach what they know. Not just in the formal school system, either. We’re now seeing a mass democratization of education, with online courses on hundreds of platforms, where one can learn everything from traditional college-level biology or philosophy delivered by big-name institutions ( to immensely practical, individually-led on-demand learning about flowcharts or e-commerce store inventory management (

The number of these individual courses grows every day. And they’re not just on dedicated sites – new tools now mean just about anyone can teach a course on, well, virtually anything they know about. I just logged on to Facebook (ugh, I know), and the 3rd post was literally titled “Finally, a Predictable Way To Get Writing Clients”. This is, clearly, another writer selling me his system (free at first, then the upsell once I’m hooked) for getting clients.

I can buy virtually anything these days, because people are selling training courses for nearly everything under the sun. The question is, Why? Why, if we have denigrated teaching so much and for so long, would so many be putting time and money towards presenting themselves as teachers? Why would they be leaving the doing of whatever it is (getting clients, trading energy derivatives, building business analytic systems, etc.) they have clearly achieved some level of success, in order to shift over to the lowly position of teacher?

Because It’s The Economy, Stupid

Now, just to be clear, I’m not calling you stupid. (I’m referencing a phrase from an old Bill Clinton candidate message.) I am, however, pointing out that people selling those courses are, in fact, selling something.

And those who are working at teaching economics or poetry or computer science at our high schools and colleges are actually selling that education, as well. They may be selling in bulk, and the payor (school system) may be different from the client (high school students), but the idea is the same.

Instead of doing the work once, and getting paid for it once, by an employer (or client), these innovative entrepreneurs are doing a different kind of work once, and selling that work product multiple times, with little to no marginal cost to them.

It’s like how if you custom-design cars, or computers, or clothes, it takes a lot more time and cost to produce them. But if you figure out how to do one thing over and over and over, you spread the design and set-up cost over a vastly larger set of outputs, meaning your costs go down, and your profits go up.

Think about it. A professor of biology does the same amount of work to lecture 20 students as 30, as 40, as 1. Which makes the most sense, from an economic standpoint?

An online educator proclaiming to instill within me a 7-step foolproof method for how to get new writing clients could be using those 7 steps to land new clients left and right. But then she’d be stuck doing that writing work over and over and over again. Much better to, instead, exploit my naivete a little bit, make some passive income selling a portion of her knowledge to me and ten thousand others around the country (around the world, even!), and free up some time in her day for a visit to the State Park or to work on developing the next course. Again, which one makes more economic sense?

Am I Just Being Extra Cynical?

I don’t think so. I believe I’m offering a warning to those out there who imagine they will get something for nothing. That they’ll get the “secret” to instant success and financial freedom, simply by following some guru’s “foolproof” formula for landing bigger, better clients or making money with other people’s money in real estate.

Yes, those people could be off doing the thing and making money there, but they’ve figured out that it’s an easier life selling the idea of making money in whatever industry they have some experience in, and they’re pursuing that endeavor with abandon.

Good on them.

I’m just not likely to participate.

Didn’t You Mention A “Better Phrase”?

Yeah, I guess I did. Remember, the old idea was “Those who can, do. Those who can’t, teach.” I think we need to retire that one and, instead, replace it with the following.

Those who can, do. Those who wish to scale, teach.

Keeping this in mind will help everyone who comes across the next “free” seminar on how to get something for nothing. It’s less likely to give you value than to create a profitable revenue stream for the “guru”. You’ve been warned.

business development, fundraising industry

Nonprofits Don’t Have a Donor Retention Problem. They Have a Donor “Retention” Problem

The average donor retention rate in 2017 was 45.5 percent; 0.5% change from 2016’s
rate. The gift or dollar retention rate was 48 percent, no change from in 2016. Over the last 10 years, donor and gift or dollar retention rates have consistently been weak — averaging below 50 percent.

2018 Fundraising Effectiveness Survey Report

My friends, this is a problem. It’s no secret. This is not a recent trend. In fact, most nonprofits seem to be resigned to this as “just the cost of doing business these days”.

For every $100 they receive in donations this year, they can count on less than 50 bucks next year. That means if you’re receiving $100,000, you can reasonably expect about $50,000 next year. And likely less than $25,000 2 years from now.

This measurement of the # of dollars given year over year, or the # of donors giving year over year, is called the “retention” rate, and it’s widely considered a pretty good metric for the health of an organization.

I think it’s also indicative of deeper change that must come. But before that:

Higher “retention”, that must mean higher satisfaction, right? Keep those refrigerator magnets coming!

Lower “retention”, Uh oh, we better do something! More thank-you cards! More phone calls!

Does it work? Not according to the statistics. Otherwise, wouldn’t we see those numbers increasing rather than decreasing?

Ultimately, that is not a very good way to create sustainability, in anything you do. Bloomerang does the math for you pretty well. I was going to do this same presentation, but they beat me to it. [By like only a decade, but who’s counting?] Check it out. 

Why Does This Happen?

Is it because of competition? So many nonprofits asking for money each year that the pool is so diluted that nobody can effectively give, so they all give up and stop with the charity?

I don’t think so.

Is it because of poor “stewardship”? By that I mean, do donors not feel appreciated enough? Don’t they get enough calendars, mailing labels, stuffed animals, t-shirts, hats, note pads, coffee mugs, sweatshirts, pens, personalized phone calls, thank-you notes, birthday cards, appeals, e-mails, annual reports, invitations to special members-only events, or newsletters?

Maybe. Probably not.

Is it because the organization uses too much “we” language in their appeals, and not enough “you” language?

Maybe. More likely than either of the above. Even this, though, could just be a false front.

I don’t think this is the real problem. Anyone can replace all the “we”s in a letter with “you” without changing beliefs about those you’re writing the letter to.

I think the real problem is something deeper. More fundamental.

More at the heart of how that organization views itself, and how it views its donors.

So what? Is it even a problem? Just have another gala and raise the money that way.

Sure, there are compensations you can make to plug the $50,000 hole in your budget next year. Have that gala, or that golf tournament. Host a trivia night. Participate in a multi-channel “acquisition” campaign. Direct mail. Board member networking. Have a garage sale. Dig up the coffee can your great-great-uncle buried in that abandoned mine shaft down the old dirt road. Get the money somehow. Meet your budget. Breathe a sign of relief.

And then hitch up your belt buckle, to do it all over again.

Because those donors you just found, to meet that $50,000 gap in your fundraising plan, are going to trickle away again, at the same 50% rate, in another year. $25,000 coming in next year, $12,500 after that, $6,250 the 4th year, and so on. Did you really do anything to move the needle?

Throw them some more merch! Let them advocate for us! Remind them that they’re the heroes!

Won’t work. Hasn’t worked.

The Giving USA 2019 report shows that charitable giving in the United States is about 2% of disposable income, and has been for a while now.

Like, the last 40 years a while.

People gave 2% of their disposable income last year. They’re likely to do so the next, and next, and next. This isn’t moving off that benchmark much, if at all. That’s just how much this society cares about philanthropy.

That extra $50,000 you raised with your gala didn’t create more giving, it just shifted it around from one group to the next. Pretty much regardless of your trinkets and your mailing labels, people are going to do what they’re inclined to do.

And one of the things people are inclined to do is to think of themselves as people, not objects.

Do you do the same? Do you treat donors as people? Or as objects?

Let me read your mind:


Now, you might get quite defensive on this one.

No we don’t, you’ll say. We love our donors very, very much! We care about each and every one of them! We let them know in every communication that if it weren’t for their $10 donation, we wouldn’t be here!

Let me ask this question, then:

Do you have a “retention rate” measurement?

If yes, then the answer for “do you treat them as people? Or as objects?”, is obvious:


Because you don’t “retain” people. You “retain” forces that would, of their own volition, do something else.

What is a retaining wall? Something holding back the rock, dirt, and mud from rolling out where it would rather be.

Wallis Landscape (internet search)

Are your donors “dirt” that just wants to follow the pull of gravity, but you’re putting barriers in their way?

What else might you “retain”? You could retain an asset, like buying a municipal bond or a stock certificate. You retain these and hold on to them, so that they appreciate in value. You have control of them; you choose what to do with them, when to dispose of them, and you get the value from them.

So – if you think of “retaining” your donors, doesn’t that mean you think of them as objects to be manipulated for your benefit?

Look at all the tips and tricks that will help you “increase” your donor retention rate: 12,800,000 results.

Will those work?

Perhaps. If you want to continue thinking of your donors as “assets” that you control. If you wish to continue to view your purpose as “stewarding” those major gifts and the

It’s a matter of mindset.

I believe that how you think of your donors will eventually shine forth in all your actions.

When you speak of “retaining” donors, that tells me that you believe that those donors want to do something else, but you want to hold them back from that very thing. You want to redirect their donations to you, not to the animal shelter down the street.

You want control.

You want power.

You want authority.

You want an asset that you can manipulate, direct, and, ultimately, bend to your will.

You haven’t done the hard work of enticing that donor to give again, because your mission aligns with her desires.

You aren’t trying to attract the right kind of donors.

You aren’t trying to woo those donors over and over and over again, and get them to be faithful in their giving to you year over year over year.

Instead, you’re trying to manipulate them. You’re trying to control them.

And it shows.

How does it show?

It shows up as 45% year-over-year giving!

It shows up in conferences, seminars, webinars, and blog posts about “boosting your retention rate”, as if that was simply another manipulable feature of your organization, like dumping a faster processor into your CPU, or pouring some nitrous oxide in your turbocharger to squeeze every last little bit of speed out of this thing before it blows up.

I think there needs to be some fundamental reframing of the words that organizations use to describe themselves, and their donors.

One of the first is this one – retention.

Let’s all say it one more time, then let’s retire it together. RETENTION is a metric we used to use, but will no longer.

Because nonprofits don’t have a retention problem. They have  a “retention” problem. The problem is not the donors, it’s in the organizations themselves and how they think.

Fixing this problem is going to be deeper than just changing a few terms.

It’s going to require full-scale reorientation of how your organization views itself and the world around.

For a simple start, make a small change.

Instead of retention, why not think of reporting your “donor faithfulness rate”?

It would be the same numbers. You wouldn’t even have to change your data processes, just re-title a few slides in your presentation deck.

100 donors last year, 45 donors this year. 45 / 100 = 45% Donor Faithfulness.



On the surface, it doesn’t look much different.

But that’s the important point.

The surface isn’t what matters. That’s just the tip of the iceberg.

It’s about recognizing who has authority in the relationship between donor and organization. Retention is all about the organization and its achievements, and says that the organization has the power. Faithfulness is all about the donor, and her desires, and recognizes her authority to walk away at any time.

If you measure a retention rate, but then try to turn around and talk about how much you love your donors and give them a “personal touch” through trinkets and baubles and window dressing,  there’s going to be a disconnect.

They will be able to feel it.

They’ll be able to sense that you don’t really care about them. They’ll be able to sense that you’re really more concerned with your own goals and meeting your own objectives.

They may not be able to express it in words, but they will express it in action.

By giving somewhere else next year.

And searching for that relationship that they’re missing.

The relationship they thought they were getting by giving to your mission in the first place.

The relationship that you’re now missing out on, because they’re wandering off somewhere else.


note – this is one of a series of blogs about the language we speak and the unintended effects of our wording. The first was Stop Saying “Thank You”. More will follow.